There is no getting away from the fact that family proceedings of any type are extremely stressful. In particular, the lead up to a final hearing understandably triggers off a high level of anxiety and fear of the unknown. These feelings inevitably have an impact on day to day life.
We have put together some tips we hope will help our clients through this difficult period:
- Don’t allow the stress to define you. Make sure you keep busy with interests (or find new ones), hobbies and spend time with positive friends and family members doing things you enjoy. Relationship breakdowns and disputes over children can yield unwanted ‘advice’ from others, so try to avoid those who are only interested in being caught up in the drama!
- Get support. Don’t keep your feelings or the fact you are struggling a secret. If you need help and to talk then let somebody know. A good starting point is your GP, but private counselling is also readily available so don’t be afraid to access it.
- Let go of what you can’t control. You need to accept you cannot change a person or their attitude to a situation. Remain focused on the things you can control and let go of the rest. Don’t allow yourself to get wound up or drawn into petty conflicts. We see this happen a lot and it will only lead to heightened tension and stress. Try to remain focused on the bigger picture.
- Knowledge is empowering. If there is anything you don’t understand about the proceedings, then ask your solicitor to explain it again. Knowing what to expect can make the process far less daunting. If your only experience of the courts has been watching Suits`, you need to be reassured that the family courts are very different to this!
- Look to the future. Life will go on after this and it’s good to spend time thinking about new hopes, goals, dreams and moving on.