October 24, 2019
 
 
 

What can you do if you are experiencing Domestic Abuse?

Many people believe that domestic abuse, also known as domestic violence, is limited to physical acts such as pushing, slapping or hitting another person. This is not the case.

The government’s definition states that domestic abuse includes behaviour that is “controlling, coercive, threatening, violent or abusive" and that it "occurs between people aged over 16”.

Although domestic abuse is often thought of as a gender crime, it is important to note that such abuse affects both men and women and includes “psychological, physical, sexual, financial and emotional” mistreatment.

It can be hard to accept that you are in an abusive relationship and easy to make excuses for your partner’s behaviour. 

When you do realise that your partner is behaving in an unacceptable way, there are people who can listen and help you decide your next steps.  You might not want, or feel able, to end your relationship, but it is important to get help to end the abuse.  Without intervention, it is unlikely that the abuse will stop on its own.

There are many ways to ask for help, including:

If you feel unsafe, we would always recommend that you contact the police.  If you have already done this or believe that it has no effect on your partner’s conduct you can take further steps through the courts.

A letter from a solicitor threatening court action might act as a deterrent. However, it is not always appropriate to give notice, in high-risk situations it might be recommended that you apply for an urgent injunction.

There are two types of injunction that are intended to protect you and/or any children who are affected by the abuse:

  • An Occupation Order – which can remove your partner from the home and deny them the right to access certain areas outside of the home.
  • A Non-Molestation Order – which can be issued where there is violence, threat of violence, intimidation, harassment and pestering.

A breach of a non-molestation order has serious consequences.  It is a criminal offence for which a person can be arrested and is punishable by up to 5 years imprisonment.  The court will consider making a non-molestation order to secure your health, safety and well-being and the same for any relevant children.  You will need to provide evidence that protection is required, such as medical/police reports, a GP letter, photographs of injuries or even a statement from a witness (such as a family member or friend).  This is important as injuries may heal and evidence of them can be crucial, especially if your partner denies their actions.

Whether you are ready to seek help or not, you might consider keeping a private record of the abuse you are experiencing, as this can help you if and when the time comes.  You can also download the Hollie Guard App, which turns a smart phone into a personal safety device alerting nominated contacts or the police if you are in danger as well as recording video and audio if necessary, the evidence is admissible in court.

For further advice on protecting yourself from domestic abuse, please contact Louise Allard or Sabrina Bailey on 020 7993 2936.

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